The Other Side of Hell Podcast

Amends

"It's not a person's mistakes that define them-it's the way they make amends."
In A.A., making amends is step 9, and the step before states "..became willing to make amends to them all." There is an entire step devoted to preparing to make amends. That's because amends are not often an easy thing to do.
In this episode, Willy and Cameron get in to what it means to make amends. By no means does saying I'm sorry erase the damage we have done and we do not get to decide how the person receiving the amends responds. It's important that we look at our part in these actions and own up to. Amends means simply that we were wrong with what we did, we're willing to do whatever is necessary to make it right and that we are changing our behavior.
The weight that is lifted from taking this step is insurmountable. When we begin to clean the wreckage of our past, we pave better roads for our future. Listen in as the guys share a few person instances of these scenarios playing out in their own lives.
AND this week's War Story comes to us from Abby, a recovering alcoholic and food addict. Growing up with addiction in her home, she shares how it impacted her as her own drinking career simultaneously rocketed into the fourth dimension. After many years of black out drinking, she had more than a few instances she had to make amends for. Now, her life is dramatically different as she navigates the healthy and positive road of recovery and self improvement. She truly is an inspiration.
You can follow Abby's story on Instagram at @abbys.road.there for more inspiration and support in this thriving on-line community of people who have found hope and peace in freedom from drugs and alcohol.

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If you're interested in telling your war story or need to reach out, please contact us at theothersideofhell@gmail.com!

Thanks for all your support and remember, you are the most important part of the show!

Acceptance

Accept the things we cannot change! Sometimes, stuff is going to happen that's beyond our control. There is much we can do about it but accept. It's the first step in moving into the solution. Which is why its so valuable in our daily lives.
On this topic, The Other Side of Hell also has had to accept a future without one of the co-host as Neight has made the decision to move on from the podcast. While his contribution to the show will be missed, we wish him luck in all his future endeavors.
With a new sound, new style, and undoubtedly new feel, The Other Side of Hell podcast continues to push forward to bring you a deep discussion on things we all deal with on a day to day basis. When the unexpected happens, we can either let it make us weaker or accept it, learn from it, and grow. We choose the latter. And we hope that when faced with the same scenarios, that you will too.
This week's warstory is someone who has had to make her peace with rolling with the punches. Sarah, of the Sober Gratitudes podcast tells her story of alcoholism and looking for validation in all the wrong things. She's shares on the struggle of maintaining the facade of harmony when inside a battle is being waged. She's become someone who has found great reward in giving back and is constantly working to help others.
You can find her podcast anywhere you listen. It's another valuable tool for your tool box.
iTunes link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sober-gratitudes/id1451006650

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Selfishness

It's easy to get lost in the world of "self." Sometimes we can be so consumed by what's happening in our world, that we're not present for the world that's happening around us. It would seem that getting out of our own way by helping others is a solution we're not always willing to accept.

In this episode, Neight brings the topic of selfishness to The Other Side of Hell table. Cameron and Willy chime in with their two cents and bounce concepts off each other. The guys reflect on how selfish they can be when living in the disease.

When using, it feels like you're the only person in the world and everyone else takes a back seat. Now that we're recovered, the best way we can break that line of thinking is by being of service. So how best can we do that? Tune in and comment below to join the discussion.

This week, we have a great Warstory from Jared Miller. Here how a sports injury led him to heroin and eventually being homeless. It's a true inspiration to hear how far he has come. Jared makes it a point to give back to the recovery community and is a motivational speaker in the area.

Jared can be contacted on Instagram at @millermotivationgroup and his podcast can be found on YouTube and can be found anywhere you listen to podcasts!

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNI1KP8sVCXgEgCz0BXl34g
iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-do-recover-with-jared-miller/id1519085421

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Healing

We’ve all experienced something traumatic on varying levels. The way we were raised, past relationships, loss of a loved one, or addiction to drugs or alcohol, just to name a few. How do we move on from these situations and continue our growth? Where does healing begin and end? And what’s the process for accepting that we deserve to move into a healing space?

On this week’s episode Cameron, Willy and Neight are joined by Katie Hansen from Katie’s Crazy Corner podcast to take a deep dive into healing. Not only is Katie a domestic abuse survivor, she is also a life management coach, body positivity coach and support liaison for other women in need. We get to hear how Katie continues to go through her own healing process after finally getting the courage to escape her own abusive situation and how she has used that experience to become the strong, brave woman that she is today.

This week’s Warstory is another great one. 28-year-old Samantha tells us how alcohol nearly killed her. From constantly blacking out to waking up in the hospital after being dumped off in the hospital parking lot with an BAL of .457%, which is stronger than most general anesthesia, Samantha has come a long way in her first 9 months of recovery. From isolating and binging on food and alcohol, she has been able to turn things around and has not only been abstinent from drugs or alcohol but has managed to shed a significant amount of weight and establish a healthy exercise routine. We applaud her for owning her story and sharing it with the world!

You can follow Samantha on Instagram @miss_parson to see the amazing transformation for yourself!

Be sure to check out Katie’s Crazy Corner for more awesome wisdom and love from Katie and be sure to check out her website, www.katiescrazycorner.com. You can also follow her on Instagram at @redhead_forrealz. If you or anybody you know is in an abusive situation, you can contact Katie directly on Instagram or at redhead_forrealz@yahoo.com. Whether you need to formulate a plan of action, or just talk to someone who understands, do not hesitate to reach out.

Also, you can check out www.thehotline.org for more information on how to get support. You can also call 1-800-799-7233 24/7. The first step to healing is having the courage to surrender to the help that’s available.

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Me Time

You've all heard it said. "I need more 'Me Time.'" It seems to refer to a magical period of time where we're able to only think about ourselves and shut the world off. Is there such a thing or is "Me Time" just an excuse to be lazy?
In this weeks episode, Neight, Cameron and Willy talk about the ever elusive concept of "Me Time." Its important to carefully define exactly what that means to each of us individually. The guys talk about how "Me Time" is different for each one of them based strictly on where they are in there lives but despite the differences, it would seem that "Me Time" can be an opportunity to let your guard down. It's important to take time to recharge but often times, we can be confused about what we really need to be doing to "recharge."
This week, we have another amazing WarStory. Kevin, from Ohio, tells us what lead to his "rock bottom" and how he decided that enough was enough. He had enough evidence to know that he could not quit drinking on his own and made the courageous decision to get the help he needed. Since then, he has found a thriving online recovery community and has become a healthy and positive inspiration for those who may still be struggling. We hope you're able to identify and recognize there is hope.
You can follow Kevin on Instagram at @thesoberginger

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Outlook

It's easy to look at things we've accomplished and find the things we've done wrong. We may find that looking at the lesson or seeing the good in certain situations doesn't come naturally. So how can we maintain a positive outlook in our lives? Is there a method to shift our perspective in order to maintain a healthy attitude?
In this episode Neight, Cameron, and Willy talk about outlook. Neight shares with us his reasons for bringing up the topic that stem from finding imperfection in a recent accomplishment and allowing that to overshadow an impressive feat. Willy and Cameron share their thoughts on outlook and just how cunning, baffling, and powerful the disease can be in convincing us to find only the bad in everything. A sure fire way to get us to return to old survival patterns.
This week our Warstory comes to us from across the pond! Emily shares with us her anorexia story and her journey into a healthy mindset and positive outlook. Tune in to hear her talk about her struggle with abusing laxatives in order to find a number on the scale she could live with only to discover the problem was much deeper than how much she weighed. She's since opted to document her whole journey on Instagram which you can follow at @emilys.anorexia.story. You can also find Emily on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRp6Tf0KvGC-TSnTDhYisKw

Thank you Emily for being brave enough to share your story with the world! By being open, we not only offer hope to those who are still struggling, but by connecting and being vulnerable with a large audience our confidence in our journey increases. Together we do recover!

If you or anybody you know is struggling with an unhealthy relationship with food, we hope that you'll reach out to get help. Through surrendering we find freedom. Check out the link below for some helpful information.
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/where-do-i-start-0

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Obsession

We often hear the word obsession thrown around in meetings. We all know that giving in to a craving can kick start an obsession, but is all obsession bad? Is there such a thing as healthy obsession?

Obsession can feel contradictory at times. That's why on this episode of The Other Side of Hell podcast, the guys get deep into obsession. Hear Neight talk about the obsession to drink and how that obsession has showed up in other instances of his life. Listen in as Cameron gets into what classifies something as a healthy obsession. See if Willy's message of being obsessed with getting to know himself resonates with you. It's an absolutely fascinating topic and great discussion here on the podcast!

Plus, this week we have an amazing WarStory from Taylor! Hear how he talks about making the conscious decision to turn his will and his life over to the power of drugs and alcohol. He tells about just how far down he had to go before getting the courage to surrender to help. It's truly another fascinating story of hope in recovery from someone who has come far by turning it over, showing up, and doing the work. Thank you Taylor for sharing your story!
Follow Taylor on Instagram! @addict_2_athlete

RESOURCES
Tom Bilyeau, https://g.co/kgs/YM6Q7S

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Connection

Have you ever felt like you have a bad connection? Maybe you're spiritually not in a place with good service and the message is unable to get through. How important is our connection with those around us? And what can we do to maintain a quality signal?

In this week's episode, Cameron, Willy and Neight talk connection and how finding ways to connect with others can bring peace, despite negative self talk throwing excuses at you to stay distant. If we look long enough, it's easy to see that we have more similarities than differences and celebrating these commonalities can bring us closer together. There's a strong sense of spirituality in the energy that's shared among a group of people who share openly with one another.

We find it critical to maintain a spiritual connection in order to keep the negative self talk at bay and continue to do the work on bettering ourselves. Tune in to hear the discussion on how this can be done, or how to recognize that this needs to happen.

This week we have another great WarStory! Ricky shares with us his experience, strength and hope. We hear how growing up without a dad, and eventually in a reverse roll as the caretaker of his mother, introduced him to drugs which would inevitably consume him. Now, after 14 years of sobriety, he tells us what life is like for him now, including his passion for music and a renewed relationship with his absent father. There's a lot to identify with and connect with here.

You can follow Ricky on Instagram at @dollagreentv.
Check out his YouTube page here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFGFazqmgnVrO5OiuYsyk0g

Drop him a line if you identified with his story and check out his music while you're there.

Mad shout out to everyone who contributes and continues to support the show with your love, kindness and generosity. Remember, you can follow us on all social media platforms.
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Remember, you are worth the work and the most important part of the show!

Criticism

We've all experienced moments where we've reacted negatively to criticism. Maybe it was because we didn't like or respect the individual giving the criticism, the criticism wasn't asked for, or the message felt hypocritical. The truth is, it's easy to take criticism the wrong way.

So how can we take criticism in an open way that will allow us to grow? Can we get over being offended long enough to find value in what we're hearing? And what about giving criticism? That's a whole other ball of wax.
On this episode Neight, Willy and Cameron discuss what they've learned about criticism. Neight talks about how criticism is allowing him to shape into the man he wants to be. Willy talks about learning how to give criticism. And Cameron goes into getting over being offended enough to apply the information given to us.

This week, we have a WarStory for the books. Chas Smith, AKA Colicchie is a Hip Hop artist and well known voice in the recovery movement. He shares with us just how deep the hole got for him before he put down the shovel. Hear how he finally was able to tap into a power greater than himself to stay clean and how being a father has become the most important role in his life. We're truly blessed and grateful to be able to share his story with you.

You can follow Colicchie on Instagram at @colicchie and twitter at @colicchie412.
You can also find him on Facebook, https://www.facebook.com/colicchie
Check out his videos on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFODwqBogxHFegseFsVHh5A

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RESOURCES

The Mighty Networks
https://www.mightynetworks.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Search%7CMN%7CBrand&utm_content=General%7CEXT&utm_term=mightynetworks&gclid=Cj0KCQjw6575BRCQARIsAMp-ksPyMOIJz-S1VVo9ADYyUiagkqdSn8v2UyihokTV8OkyV3W6uOEYJjoaArMREALw_wcB

Tom Bilyeau, Impact Theory University
https://university.impacttheory.com/

Colicchie, Drug Addiction
https://youtu.be/_qlJlqlfvuw

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There is always hope.

Compassion

"Compassion" is a word we hear thrown around a lot. But what does it really mean to have compassion? Do we always know when someone is being compassionate towards us? And what's the difference between compassion and empathy?
In this episode, Willy, Neight, and Cameron get real with compassion. Sometimes, it may be hard to see that someone is compassionate if the message they deliver is blunt and honest. But if you can get past taking it personal, often times we see the love in their actions. Most of us addicts and alcoholics are here because the people around us expressed compassion. Now we get to look at those around us who may be stuck in a difficult experience with compassion. And offer a hand up, not a hand out.
This week's WarStory is an amazing one. Pamela shares with us what it was like growing up in Mexico and starting to drink from an early age. After many tumultuous years of "needing to get her shit together" she was able to finally get the help she needed only to relapse after being down the road a ways. Listen in as she talks about her journey back from relapse and into a space where she can now serve others as a one on one Recovery Coach. Thank you Pamela for sharing your amazing story! And for making yourself available to those in need!

Pamela has put together some great online courses and "coaching meditations" available on-line at mybadassrecovery.com. You can also follow her on IG at @mybadassrecovery where she invites you to DM her with any questions, comments, or if you just need to talk to someone. Check her out and give her a follow to continue to support the Recovery community! And if you, or anybody you know is struggling with addiction, Pamela is available as a Recovery Coach. Please have the courage to get the help you need and reach out to someone, if not Pamela or The Other Side of Hell podcast directly.

RESOURCES
Wes Watson, Watson Fit
https://shu.weswatson.com

Brene Brown, Dare to Lead
https://g.co/kgs/EbpyMh

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As always, email us at theothersideofhell@gmail.com if you're interested in sharing your WarStory or if you have ideas for a topic. We love hearing from you.

Thanks again! You are the most important part of the show