The Other Side of Hell Podcast

Letting Go

Let it go. We've all heard it. Anyone with kids has heard probably too much of it. What does it really mean to let go? How can we recognize whats no longer serving us? And how do we get that song out of our heads??

There are so many things around us we can't control. The future, other peoples emotions, whether or not someone likes us. We are powerless over a great deal of the things we interact with. So we learn to let go of our need to control. We let go of what doesn't serve us. In this episode Cameron, Neight and Willy talk about identifying those things, the process of moving forward, and how we know if we really have let go of those notions.

We have another amazing WarStory this week. It comes to us from Michelle Ould, former pro MMA fighter, turned podcaster and entrepreneur. Michelle gets deep with us about what it was like growing up in a household with parents who were using, channeling her rage into a profession, and using drugs to remove herself from the present moment experience in order to cope with the pain she felt inside. Listen as she talks about what it took for her to finally get the help she needed and how she's turned her story into one of hope and inspiration. We hope you'll enjoy it as much as we have.

Check out Michelle's podcast, The Sober Mompreneur, anywhere you get your podcasts! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-sober-mompreneur/id1506996408

You can also follow her on Instagram @thesobermompreneurpodcast!

RESOURCES

Jocko Willink, Extreme Ownership https://g.co/kgs/4dRz67

As always, you can follow us at @theothersideofhell101 on Instagram or @TOSOHpodcast on Twitter! Be sure to check us out on Facebook as well!

Email us with show ideas or if you're interested in telling you WarStory!

Thanks to everyone for your support! You are the most important part of the show!

Beliefs

The story we tell ourselves plays a pivotal role in the way we see the world. What we believe will shape the way we do things, our relationships with others, and our motivation for change. So where do we get our beliefs? How do we recognize the beliefs that are no longer serving us? And what's the best way to establish new beliefs and moral codes to base your life around?

In this episode, Willy, Cameron, and Neight talk about beliefs. While it can seem most commonly associated to religious beliefs, our beliefs determine our actions, and we can pick them up from anywhere. Beliefs can be based around trauma, around experience, or around faith. The important part is that we figure out which beliefs can help us be better people and move throughout the world better fit to help others and stick with them. And maybe the biggest belief we should have about ourselves, is that our beliefs can change.

Plus, this weeks WarStory is a powerful one. Jen Elizabeth shares her story of drinking to cope with the child hood trauma she experienced. Her decent into meth and heroine use lead to a life of homelessness and crime. With her self worth at an all time low, she finally landed in a jail cell after repeated "attempts" at sobriety through out patient programs. Finally, something inside her connected with a power greater than herself and she felt even the tiniest urge to change her life. From that she turned her life around by committing to a life of recovery. Now, she is a published author, mother of 2 and a beacon of hope within the recovery community.

Thank you Jen for sharing your powerful story! If you feel like you need someone to talk to or would like to connect with Jen in any way she can be reached on Instagram @resurrektion_of_me and now has her own website, http://resurrektionofme.com. Please reach out to her if you need any resources in Recovery.

Jen's book is called Shape of a Woman and is available on Amazon!
https://www.amazon.com/Shape-Woman-Jen-Elizabeth/dp/1732647151

You can always reach out to us @theothersideofhell101 of Instagram or Facebook or email us at theothersideofhell@gmail.com

RESOURCES

Street Epistemology https://www.youtube.com/c/AnthonyMagnabosco210/featured

Tom Bilyeu
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnYMOamNKLGVlJgRUbamveA

Mel Robbins
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk2U-Oqn7RXf-ydPqfSxG5g

Thanks to everybody for tuning in! We love you! Remember, you are the most important part of the show!

Goals

We move through life with intention. It's important that we have a destination in mind. Goals can help us get there. So how do we make goals? What can we do to better see them through? And is there value in not achieving goals?

On this episode Neight, Cameron, and Willy go deep with goals. For the longest time, Neight thought goals were basically wishes. And here he talks about how a goal without a plan is basically just that; a wish. Cameron gets into how failing at a goal still inches towards the finish line and how its important to know you have achieved goals in the past. Willy says his goal is to one day look back on his life, and know that it wasn't wasted.

So how do we break down goals? Are there goals that are unrealistic? And is there such a thing as too many goals? You decide. We'd love to hear what you think.

Speaking of goals, this week's WarStory is someone who has met and accomplished quite a few of her goals. In fact, having a great deal of success in her career kept her from admitting to herself that she had a problem with alcohol. After a great deal of pain, she was finally convinced enough to check out a local AA meeting and there she found people willing to help her in areas of her life she admitted she was powerless over. Now she's experiencing a new way of life and redefining her idea of success.

You can follow Noelle on Instagram @noelle.louise for more great inspiration and to follow her story!

RESOURCES

David Goggins, https://g.co/kgs/nuQRLK

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If you have an idea for a topic or are interested in sharing your WarStory, email us at theothersideofhell@gmail.com.

Thank you! And remember, you are the most important part of the show!

Balance

How would you describe Balance? Are you able to recognize when things are feeling one-sided? And if so, what do you do about it?

How can we be sure everything is getting the appropriate amount of attention? First, we have to determine what our priorities are and lead from that space. In this weeks episode, the guys talk about the ever elusive Balance. Cameron talks about how to make sure everything is receiving the appropriate amount of attention. Willy gets into listening to your conscious. Neight gets into being over obsessive and how to get things back into balance.

Can we always trust our conscious? The guys discuss more about how to recognize the difference between your conscious and the voice of resistance and how not acting in line with your conscious can throw you off your game and lead to guilt and shame. So how do we know which voice to listen to? Tune in to find out!

Plus, we have another great Warstory from a listener. This one comes from Gentry, sober mom, and grateful alcoholic. Her story includes a number of years of denial and strict controlled drinking. She talks about being intoxicated while being a full time mother. Getting sober costs her relationships and has sent her life in a new, healthy and positive direction. This one is one for the books. We're honored she chose to share it with us!

Gentry has a very inspirational Instagram as she documents her journey as a sober mom. You can follow her at @lifewithGentry

As always, The Other Side of Hell podcast is on Facebook and Instagram at @theothersideofhell101

We're on Twitter @TOSOHpodcast.

If you have any ideas for a show or are interested in sharing your WarStory you can email us at theothersideofhell@gmail.com.

Thanks for the support guys! We know you'll love this one!

Growth

Growth is happening! It's not always to see when we're in our day by day but often times, if you pause long enough, you can look back and see real growth. We're often too quick to dismiss progress.

On this very special episode of The Other Side of Hell podcast Neight, Willy and Cameron dress in their best to do just that. Join us as we stop and acknowledge our growth! Our growth as a podcast, our growth as individuals and the growth of the individuals we've been fortunate enough to meet throughout our journey.

Our lives takes us in many different directions at all times. We do our best to stay the course, have a clear direction, ask for help when needed, and feed off the positive energy that comes from bonding with others. In the 9 months since The Other Side of Hell podcast has been produced, some of us have started new businesses, gone to jail, gotten married, moved out of our parents house, taken on vigorous exercise routines, gotten new jobs, and more! Growth can look like MANY different things!

Our growth is because of YOU! The listener. The ones brave enough to share your stories. And those of you brave enough to fight regardless. You're tuning in because of a connection. The connection you feel does not discriminate. Does not care what the color of your skin is, your gender, or whether your vice is white flour or cocaine. The connection is struggle. We ALL struggle. The good news is knowing we all share this common trait means WE have the ability to help each other. By sharing our stories, we remind everybody that they are not alone, there is hope, and there are people who understand how you feel!

In this, our longest ever podcast, we not only acknowledge the growth in ourselves, but have taken the time to go back and talk about everyone who has shared their WarStories. We see the growth in you, even if you don't. Sometimes its not always easy to see the forest for the trees.

Many thanks to all who continue to support and foster our growth. The spouses, the parents, the friends, the mentors and YOU! YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF THE SHOW!

Contact us at theothersideohell@gmail.com if you're interested in telling your story or if you have ideas for a topic.

Follow The Other Side of Hell on Facebook or Instagram @theothersideofhell101

Twitter @TOSOHpodcast

We hope to hear from you!

Growth

Growth is happening! It's not always to see when we're in our day by day but often times, if you pause long enough, you can look back and see real growth. We're often too quick to dismiss progress.

On this very special episode of The Other Side of Hell podcast Neight, Willy and Cameron dress in their best to do just that. Join us as we stop and acknowledge our growth! Our growth as a podcast, our growth as individuals and the growth of the individuals we've been fortunate enough to meet throughout our journey.

Our lives takes us in many different directions at all times. We do our best to stay the course, have a clear direction, ask for help when needed, and feed off the positive energy that comes from bonding with others. In the 9 months since The Other Side of Hell podcast has been produced, some of us have started new businesses, gone to jail, gotten married, moved out of our parents house, taken on vigorous exercise routines, gotten new jobs, and more! Growth can look like MANY different things!

Our growth is because of YOU! The listener. The ones brave enough to share your stories. And those of you brave enough to fight regardless. You're tuning in because of a connection. The connection you feel does not discriminate. Does not care what the color of your skin is, your gender, or whether your vice is white flour or cocaine. The connection is struggle. We ALL struggle. The good news is knowing we all share this common trait means WE have the ability to help each other. By sharing our stories, we remind everybody that they are not alone, there is hope, and there are people who understand how you feel!

In this, our longest ever podcast, we not only acknowledge the growth in ourselves, but have taken the time to go back and talk about everyone who has shared their WarStories. We see the growth in you, even if you don't. Sometimes its not always easy to see the forest for the trees.

Many thanks to all who continue to support and foster our growth. The spouses, the parents, the friends, the mentors and YOU! YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF THE SHOW!

Contact us at theothersideohell@gmail.com if you're interested in telling your story or if you have ideas for a topic.

Follow The Other Side of Hell on Facebook or Instagram @theothersideofhell101

Twitter @TOSOHpodcast

We hope to hear from you!

Trauma

Way back in the infancy of the podcast we had our friend Jake join us to talk about trauma. Not only is Jake a Certified Social Worker but he has his own recovery story and has had to deal with his fair share of trauma. Who better to have as our first guest? Well, as luck would have it, we ran into a couple of severe technical issues (growing pains as some would say.) Unfortunately, the episode was not salvageable and we've been trying to get him back on ever since!So, just as we do with trauma, we as a podcast continued to grow, and adapt. We accepted that we had some struggles early on and decided to learn from them. And now, Jake is back to have some serious talk about trauma and the world that we're currently living in. It would seem there's one constant in almost every WarStory we hear. Trauma. Whether you struggle with addiction, neurosis, or just plain low self-esteem, it's fair to say it likely stems from some sort of trauma. So how do we become more than victims? Can we truly use trauma as fuel for change? Can we find solidarity in overcoming struggle and trauma?This one is an episode for the books! We also have a GREAT WarStory today. Melissa does not identify as an addict but on this episode she shares her story of abuse and trauma she suffered as a child and adolescent. She talks on how it has impacted her life and how she has made the choice to be an abuse survivor! Thank you Melissa for being brave enough to share your story with the world. It's through these experiences that we grow!RESOURCESDavid Goggins, Can't Hurt Me https://g.co/kgs/njt2JBNew Lamb of God album (out June 19) https://g.co/kgs/S8b8eaThanks to each and every one brave enough to come forward with their stories! And to any of you still struggling, keep fighting. We're worth the work! What doesn't kill us, truly makes us stronger!! 

Expectations

It's been said that expectations are resentments waiting to happen. What kind of expectations are okay? Is it fair to say that unreasonable expectations will always lead to disappointments? Are we fooling ourselves by having expectations?Join us this week when Neight, Willy and Cameron talk about the tricky subject of expectations. Why so tricky? Good question. Neight navigates whether expectations while pursuing relationships are shallow or not? Cameron talks about having expectations for others but also remembering that we are human. Willy touches on our expectations for ourselves and how to hold ourselves accountable.Plus, as usual, we have a great WarStory this week from our dear friend Ashley. Ashley recognized an obsession from a young age. An injury led her down the path of opiate abuse. Coupled with severe domestic violence, it's fair to say that Ashley has been through her own version of hell. We are so grateful that she emerges as a survivor and strong voice of hope and recovery. Thank you Ashley for having the courage to tell your story!Follow Ashley on Instagram at @safehavenesstentials87We hope that today's high energy episode will make you laugh, cry and identify. We thank you for joining us!If you or anyone you know is a domestic violence situation we encourage you to not remain silent and to reach out. Help can be found at our trusted resource here at safeharborhope.org. You can also call 24/7 at 801.444.9161. You can also contact The national domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or online at thehotline.org. Follow The Other Side of Hell on Instgram, Facebook and Twitter!Facebook and Instagram @theothersideofhell101Twitter at @TOSOHpodcast Join The Other Side of Hell podcast Facebook group to keep up to date with the podcast and join the community of hope in recovery and life empowerment!If you have show ideas or would like to tell your story, you can email us at theothersideofhell@gmail.com.Thanks for your support! Remember, you are the most important part of the show!

Honesty

Honesty The truth can be uncomfortable. Why is it so hard to be honest about some things while others seem to be easy? Does being open and honest really make that big of a difference in our growth? And is it ever okay to not be honest?This week the boys talk honesty and Cameron opens up about his resistance to being honest about his struggle with food. It's easy to let fear of judgement keep us being selfish and dishonest which prevents us from making progress. Surrounding ourselves with people in our lives we KNOW we can be honest with is pivotal. It's important too that we know those people will be brutally honest with us in return.We also have a great WarStory today! Arielle tells us her story all the way from British Columbia! We hear how she navigated her career while maintaining a serious drinking habit and just how addicting Tinder can be. She found herself desperate enough to be honest with those around her who loved her and offered to help. Since then, she has turned her business skills and desire to help people into a valuable resource and on-line community with @mysobercompass. Thank you for sharing your story!Follow Arielle on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/mysobercompass Click the link for more information: https://linktr.ee/mysobercompass She has a YouTube Channel, on-line meetings, and you can now book a live 1 on 1 coaching session with her! RESOURCES Jasmine Star https://www.instagram.com/jasminestar/ Les Brown https://youtu.be/7rD2cpmh6uY

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Shame

Shame is deep rooted. We who identify as addicts or alcoholics likely spent a lot of time feeling like we were bad people. Even those who don't identify as addicts can pinpoint some guilt they feel towards certain behaviors. It's easy to let this guilt turn into shame. So where does shame come from? What's the difference between guilt and shame? And more importantly, what can we do about it?This week's episode has the guys talking shame. Neight, Willy and Cameron talk about there own experiences with shame, some that stem from not living up to other's expectations. It's pretty easy to go through life feeling not good enough or labeled as "bad." Join the discussion on this topic by commenting on YouTube! Plus, as usual, we have a great WarStory for you today! We speak with our dear friend Jill who has had her own version of shame. As someone who maintained two separate lives based on whether she was attending church or going to the bars, it's fair to say Jill has an amazing story of overcoming shame and blossoming into a truly inspirational person. We're so grateful she chose to share her story with us.RESOURCEShttps://youtu.be/psN1DORYYV0 Listening to Shame, Brene Brown https://youtu.be/H_8y0WLm78U The Price of Shame, Monica Lewinsky Follow us on twitter, facebook, and instagram!Twitter: @TOSOHpodcastFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/theothersideofhell101 Intagram: @theothersideohell101If you have ideas for a show or are interested in telling your WarStory, we'd love to hear from you! Email us at theothersideofhell@gmail.com. Thanks guys! You are the most important part of the show!